Supporting a Student with New Pronouns
As a parent, guardian, teacher, tutor, or friend it takes some time to get used to using new pronouns with a student. When a young person decides to share an important part of their identity with the world by using new pronouns or changing how they express themself it requires empathy, an open mind, and practice.
Empathy
It is really scary as a young person to tell the world you are different than how it perceives you. Going against the grain by asserting your personhood is a courageous act that should be applauded. If a student you know wants you to use new pronouns for them or a new name it means they are sharing a part of themselves with you and often looking for acceptance. You can support them by express gratitude for sharing in a moment of vulnerability by doing as they ask and respecting their identity.
Open Mind
If you think it is hard for you to accept this student is not who you thought they were imagine how hard it was for them to accept themself enough to live their truth. It takes time to settle into a new dynamic so be patient both with yourself and your student.
Practice
You will make mistakes and that's ok! Using different pronouns or name will take time to get used to. It is important to try and catch yourself when you make an error and correct it next time. One common issue with well-intentioned people is they will over apologize or explain which is not helpful. Anything you can do to change your own habits and not make it the student's responsibility to correct you will help enormously.